1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:15,050 2 00:00:15,050 --> 00:00:17,310 Eliana Okeson: Hello, my name is Eliana Okeson. 3 00:00:17,310 --> 00:00:23,980 I attend Jefferson Unitarian Church in Golden, Colorado. 4 00:00:23,980 --> 00:00:29,200 Dark night, path of lights, chalices illuminating. 5 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:32,460 Mind by many souls, one by one they 6 00:00:32,460 --> 00:00:37,410 enter, walk the length, become the edge once more. 7 00:00:37,410 --> 00:00:38,420 My turn. 8 00:00:38,420 --> 00:00:38,920 Love. 9 00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:40,550 Hand on my shoulder, thank you, love. 10 00:00:40,550 --> 00:00:41,630 Sweet soul, hug. 11 00:00:41,630 --> 00:00:42,460 Thank you. 12 00:00:42,460 --> 00:00:45,337 Big smile, love, made me feel welcome. 13 00:00:45,337 --> 00:00:46,420 Thank you, beautiful love. 14 00:00:46,420 --> 00:00:48,840 Buddy, hand on my shoulder, love. 15 00:00:48,840 --> 00:00:50,230 Thank you. 16 00:00:50,230 --> 00:00:55,360 One more check in later, mine, worthy. 17 00:00:55,360 --> 00:00:57,780 As Unitarian Universalists we strive 18 00:00:57,780 --> 00:01:00,390 to live the seven principles. 19 00:01:00,390 --> 00:01:03,130 Likely the most well known is the first, the inherent worth 20 00:01:03,130 --> 00:01:04,959 and dignity of every person. 21 00:01:04,959 --> 00:01:07,700 As a whole we've done a pretty great job living it. 22 00:01:07,700 --> 00:01:09,830 We have been at the forefront of many equality 23 00:01:09,830 --> 00:01:13,110 movements, civil rights, immigration justice, 24 00:01:13,110 --> 00:01:17,000 LGTBQ rights and beyond. 25 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:20,370 Yet, how often have we gone and told somebody 26 00:01:20,370 --> 00:01:23,910 what they mean to us, what do we love about them, 27 00:01:23,910 --> 00:01:28,040 and that they are worthy of that love and appreciation. 28 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:31,870 A teacher I greatly admire once wrote each of her students 29 00:01:31,870 --> 00:01:34,150 a note for Valentine's Day. 30 00:01:34,150 --> 00:01:36,390 On a pink construction paper heart 31 00:01:36,390 --> 00:01:38,980 the size of a dinner plate she affirmed 32 00:01:38,980 --> 00:01:43,750 what a big part each of us were to her classroom, what a joy 33 00:01:43,750 --> 00:01:49,030 it was to teach us every day, and what we meant to her. 34 00:01:49,030 --> 00:01:54,080 I know of five that are still hanging in her students' homes 35 00:01:54,080 --> 00:01:56,300 close to a decade later. 36 00:01:56,300 --> 00:01:59,920 Not only do we fail to tell people what they mean to us, 37 00:01:59,920 --> 00:02:03,820 but when we do we make a major mistake. 38 00:02:03,820 --> 00:02:06,700 You may hear said, I love that skirt 39 00:02:06,700 --> 00:02:09,810 but the polka-dotted shirt was not working for me. 40 00:02:09,810 --> 00:02:12,770 I love you shared some of your soul earlier, 41 00:02:12,770 --> 00:02:15,500 but it wasn't the right place. 42 00:02:15,500 --> 00:02:17,550 I love when you play the clarinet, 43 00:02:17,550 --> 00:02:21,078 but that A was so out of tune. 44 00:02:21,078 --> 00:02:24,360 I love but. 45 00:02:24,360 --> 00:02:28,410 I love but. 46 00:02:28,410 --> 00:02:31,980 I love but. 47 00:02:31,980 --> 00:02:34,850 When we say such things all that is remembered 48 00:02:34,850 --> 00:02:37,650 is what is after the word but. 49 00:02:37,650 --> 00:02:41,210 Society has hardwired us to just pay attention to the things 50 00:02:41,210 --> 00:02:44,030 we believe we need to fix. 51 00:02:44,030 --> 00:02:47,290 I probably shouldn't wear that shirt again. 52 00:02:47,290 --> 00:02:49,590 Might not be a good idea to share because it could 53 00:02:49,590 --> 00:02:51,850 be the wrong time or place. 54 00:02:51,850 --> 00:02:54,290 I shouldn't play for anybody anymore. 55 00:02:54,290 --> 00:02:57,610 Take away that but. 56 00:02:57,610 --> 00:02:59,910 I love. 57 00:02:59,910 --> 00:03:02,320 I love. 58 00:03:02,320 --> 00:03:08,150 I love this about you. 59 00:03:08,150 --> 00:03:12,450 In the words of Brene Brown, you're imperfect 60 00:03:12,450 --> 00:03:16,840 and you're wired for struggle but you are worthy of love 61 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:18,560 and belonging. 62 00:03:18,560 --> 00:03:22,810 She reminds us that we are worthy of love. 63 00:03:22,810 --> 00:03:26,140 You are worthy of love. 64 00:03:26,140 --> 00:03:31,690 Your mother, father, sister, brother, son, daughter, friend 65 00:03:31,690 --> 00:03:34,140 is worthy of love. 66 00:03:34,140 --> 00:03:38,470 So I challenge you to go tell somebody what they mean to you. 67 00:03:38,470 --> 00:03:40,020 Tell them you love them. 68 00:03:40,020 --> 00:03:42,220 Tell them they are worthy of your love 69 00:03:42,220 --> 00:03:44,850 and worthy of everybody's love. 70 00:03:44,850 --> 00:03:47,030 Tell them they're beautiful. 71 00:03:47,030 --> 00:03:48,790 Thank you. 72 00:03:48,790 --> 00:03:56,118